50 Healthy Habits Every Girl Should Have #2

As promised here is this week's 5 habits

#6. Understand that excercise doesn't have to be a big time commitment

Back to this working out diabolical conversation. Working out doesn't always mean going to the gym or attending your zumba classes every week. Unless you are a gym freak, the rest of you will agree with me that getting time to workout can be struggle. Why? Well, we always look for silly excuses to bail out. From lack of time, to lack of finances. We even use our families as excuses as well. (Sadly). But like i said before, how hard is it for you to do simple workouts? Like using the stairs? Going for walks with your spouse or children during the weekend? Walking your dogs in stead of having your guard or gardener do it? (This is a challenge that i'm forcing myself to adapt to).

#7. Cut back on (evil) sugar

Truthfully, for those close to me know for a fact, I am a sugar freak. I saw this and started laughing coz i knew this will be a total fail on my end. I cannot survive without a dose of sugar in a day....AT ALL. Though i did abit of research on this and understood why its called 'evil'. People add weight from excessive sugar intake. At the same time health isssues such as diabetes tend to crop up. I've really tried to understand how people are able to have anything without sugar and to be honest, if it ain a health issue, I don't get it. Lifestyle choices....in my opinion. Anyway, this also joins my list of things I will try to work on. This week, try and calculate the amount of sugar you'll take. The results will amaze you.

#8. Drink warm water with cayenne, pepper and lemon daily.

People trying to cleanse and loose weight, try this out. My taste buds had a field trip with this. It was pretty peculiar and taught me one thing, stick to cucumber/ lemon water. If not.....PLAIN COLD water. I was amazed afew years back when i read about the importance of drinking water. I never understood why, as a child my mother would force it down my throat. Though now I'm really thankful for my flawless skin....(just saying). Gents, do you know any benefit?

a) flushes out toxins
b) improves skin complexion
c) natural headache remedy
d) increases energy and reduces fatigue
e) puts you in a good mood.
And the BEST thing about water; its FREE. What can give all those benefits at no cost?

#9. Don't try to keep up with people you ain't

I'm a die hard advocate on one's own definition. We always say: 'The people we keep define our character'. There is some truth to that but we don't get the true characteristic of a person. Though the one thing I always say to everyone around me: ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. If impressing people and trying to fit in is what drives you; REALITY CHECK;You're wasting your energy trying to keep up with people who already have their plans mapped out to suit them and here you are following them sheeplessly. Remember to always remain with those who add value and you build each other.

#10. Use a rentinol if you start getting wrinkles.

To be honest, I had no clue what rentinol was prior to this writing. So for those who are in the dark as I was rentinol is a yellow compound found in green and yellow vegetables, egg yolk and fish-liver oil. What it basically does is generate new blood vessels in the skin and increases the making of new collagen. It also helps with fading age spots. (Who knew?) I found this really amazing because its a natural way of fighting wrinkles as well as acne. Though one needs to be consisten in using it to notice the changes. The only bummer thing about this is that one starts noting the difference 6 months down the line. Well its better than going for botox fillers....


See you next week for another session...

50 HEALTHY HABITS EVERY GIRL SHOULD HAVE.#1

So the other day I was having a look at my recommendations on Pinterest and came across an interesting poster that I thought I MUST share this. This may say like a fully girly post, but gentlemen, you can learn afew things from this. Over the next 10 weeks I will take you all through; 50 HEALTHY HABITS EVERY GIRL SHOULD HAVE.

1.     Start fresh every single day

In my perspective; I believe every day is a brand new day. Let go of all the negative energy that you had from the previous day; anger; frustration; disappointment and many other NEGATIVE emotions. As soon as you open your eyes, tell yourself “Today is a new day. Whatever happened yesterday was yesterday. Time to start on a positive note.” The attitude the human brain works up with determines how the rest of your day may play out. So jump out of your bed every day with this mentality; NEW DAY, FRESH START.

2.     Check your credit card statements. Bank accounts and pays stubs regularly

When I received my first paycheck, I immediately did my nails, bought a pair of new heels as well as clothes. Not forgetting, partying. Less than 10 days down the line, I was what my mother loves says, ‘You are not broke. You are just financially challenged.’ At some point in my life I had the “shopaholic’ syndrome and found it so hard to detach until one of my colleagues sat me down and taught the importance of accounting for every cent that was mine. Since then, my whole life changed. I was able to check my statements and account for everything. At the end of the month, despite having my savings set aside, I am able to spoil myself once in awhile and still have money in the bank.

I’ve heard of banks that play around with people’s money without their customers’ knowledge. Be the smarter cat and watch out for such goons. Go through your statements at least once a month if possible.

Always be able to account for every cent that leaves your pocket.

3.     Adopt a “meatless Monday” mentality

I find it so hilarious when people ask me how I don’t add weight. How do I watch what I eat? How do I maintain my body shape? Well, thats simple, DIET. Yes I have been accused of junking and all severally but the one thing I love about my body is that I am a junkie for fruits and veggies as well. As odd as it may sound, I would pick a salad any day over a steak out.

It’s not cast in stone that you always have to pick Monday as the day, could be any day of the week. Though I’d select Monday, since my cheat day usually starts on Friday and is usually downhill from breakfast. Challenge yourself to at least have a full vegetarian day once a week.

4.     Put down your phone when you’re out with people

I LOATHE it when I’m hanging out with people and they spend their whole time on their phones. At times I wonder how they would feel if we could exchange roles.

The other day, I went for dinner with my mother and the table across us had 3 teenagers and their parents. Funny thing, THEY WERE ALL ON THEIR PHONES. PARENTS INCLUDED. I wondered what was the point of going out for a family dinner if everyone is busy on their phone.

To be honest, I find it totally disrespectful if I’m hanging out with someone and 90% of the time you’re on your phone. There are enough times I have walked away from idiots who thought they could pull such stunts on me (gals included)…this is inclusive of high level ranked people in companies. TOTALLY DISRESPECTFUL. My best friend and I have a rule, whenever we are together, we always out our phones together and place them facing down….NO DISTRACTION. Though emergency calls are allowed to be picked up or attended to.

If you are fond of this habit, ever wondered how the other person may feel?

5.     Try the 2/30 rule; 2 hours of TV, 30 minutes of exercise

I’m sure exercise is a word some people who hate to hear. I find it hilarious when I share with people my workout regime or how I spend my time during the weekends. I am truly a couch potato when I want to. That one I am a victim of. But I end up reversing it. I always hear people around me complain about their weight and when I challenge them on simple things they always end up frowning and complaining. 2HOURS of TV and just 30MIN workout…..how hard is that? Though I think the question would be what type of work out? If you can find a work out that you enjoy doing or can do with someone, I’m sure you’ll be surprised to see yourself clocking even 60 mins after awhile. Exercise is very important to the human body and yet many of us ignore it. This is one of the challenges I will take up and after the 10 weeks I’ll definitely give y’all feedback on this…..2hrs of telly…..that’ll be my challenge.

So at least every week you can challenge yourself or someone and see out of the 50 how many habits you have adapted and how many you currently are doing and are improving on them.

Enjoy the read.

APPRECIATION

Someone please help me understand this, why is it hard to appreciate people?

She wakes up every day and first thing she does is check up on you

She schedules her week and makes sure to spend time with you

She goes out of her way to run your errands when you’re tied up

He ensures he gives her whatever she wants,

He takes a bullet when it comes to doing things that she likes just to make her happy

He goes all the way to hold her hair back as she throws up in the washroom

Appreciate your girlfriend/ boyfriend

She makes sure your children are always tucked in bed every night

She ensures all your clothes are laundered accordingly

She is always your cheerleader on every idea and decision you make

She still sleeps in the same bed with you even when your hands have the scent of the other woman

He ensures your children have everything they want

He ensures he is able to provide for his family

He sacrifices everything for his family to ensure that they are safe at any one time

He turns a blind eye when he sees a text from your flirt and acts like he never saw a thing

Appreciate your Wife/ Husband

Just the other day when I was driving home, all these thoughts ran through my mind and I realized, we tend to take people for granted….ALOT….At times without knowing and at times knowingly. I took a second and it hit me, I do take a lot for granted; from my family to the few people I still have around me.

 I received a post today morning and that’s what drove me to write this post.

At times we do first have to accept who we are.

 At times we do have to change afew things here and there but change them to make us better and not for someone else. Once we overcome such a hurdle, we tend to gain a power that I LOVE…’SELF CONFIDENCE’ and of course LOVING YOURSELF EVEN MORE.

Humans tend to make the mistake of loving someone first before loving yourself. Hence we tend to hear about vicious tales of tragic break ups, bloody divorces and worse of all; fatalities.

At the end of the day, people will still take advantage of others; and I know I can’t change that, but what I can change is your perception and teach you on how to appreciate people more.

Thank the guard who opens the gate for you every morning and evening

The nanny who takes care of your babies when you are away

Your cleaner who cleans up after your crap

The cashiers at the stores who assist you with calculating your bill

Or even the bar tender who keeps topping you up whenever your glass is empty (but if he doesn't suggest you have water, change your bar tender …just saying)

Your parents for helping you get to where you are

Your spouse who is always by your side when your friends are nowhere in the vicinity

Today, I sat in a seat that a few years back I would be trembling to sit in. My voice would shake and I’d get teary due to fear. Today was a different story. I had confidence that I even surprised myself. The person across the table, instilled confidence in me…THANK YOU FOR THAT.

We never know that value of the people in our life till they are no longer in our environment.

REALITY vs LIMITS

So last week, met up with one of my gal’s and her story….I try to understand how some people are raised at times. I always listen to how men bitch about how women play with their minds and vice versa. What we never realize is we all complain about the same BLOODY things.

             MONEY

I love it when men complain about how we females are always chasing after your wallets. Wondered why? Here are two scenarios:

Scenario 1

You walk into…let’s say restaurant. Get a table by the door. Within your few seconds of scouting the room, your eyes lock with a flashy sexy lady who winks at you. Hmmm…two things may happen; you may ignore or if your man enough, smile back. With how most Kenyan men have been brought up, only gentlemen who aren’t TOO FULL of themselves will react….talking from experience…just saying….You pull out your tab, place your Iphone 6S on the table and pretend to fiddle with it. The lady walks up to you, says hi and drops off her card and asks you to give you a call before walking out. Would you call her? Let’s say you do and she invites your over to her posh penthouse that has the most amazing view of the city and you have a candle lit dinner on her balcony. A woman with power and MONEY…After a few weeks of spending time together, you realize she can get you the designer suits that you have always wanted to have…do you think it would hurt if she spared afew of her pocket change for you to have your suits? How about, she blows it out of the park and fly’s you to Milan to her your suits customized? Would you really let go?

Scenario 2

The typical case where a girl follows a man for his wallet….he pays her rent, nails, weaves (yes men….i said it….y’all bitch about how you hate em but still pay for em), buys her a car, gaudy jewelry, the list is endless.

What both scenarios have in common is simple…we aren’t satisfied by what we have. Which is fine…that should be your motivation to work harder and get it yourself. I know someone by now is asking, “What if he is willing to just give it to me?” Sweetie, he ain willing…he knows what he wants at the end of the game. It may take a week or years but when he cracks…HE WILL CRACK. Men…same applies, you will see how money controls you that you will just lay down like a lil pup and roll over whenever she says.

My question is, why not doing for you? Why do people have to use money to make others get attracted to them? Money comes…money goes…. I wonder what happens when it goes? I am not against accepting gifts that don’t have any carrots attached to them…by all means ACCEPT them…

         SELFISH

Both genders are definitely victims of this. We always want things our way. Someone would go out of their way to make you happy or comfortable that you forget the relationship is based on two people….turns out it is controlled by one person…We then turn around and realize the statement I have heard a bit one too many times “You never know what you have till you lose it”. The gal who is always by your side when you cheat on her, always have your back when you get into fights and cleans up your scars, always there when you need tissue to wipe your ass (OK. now that’s extreme)…or the guy who always picks you up from the club and you are totally plastered, holds back your weave when you are busy throwing up, always sits through all your whining about how you hate life…tsk tsk tsk…. dem good people out there…. May the Lord Bless your Souls

3PRETENCE

The two things I have been told about myself recently by several people, I am at times unapproachable…apparently I have a bitch face attitude if not that I am too frank. Oh well…guess what I have no apologies for that…with me…what you see is what you get. If you don’t like it, suck it for all I care. There is no way in hell I would ever put on a show to impress some nigga or bitch…. I AIN GOT TIME FOR THAT. Question, what happens when the show is over and the curtains are closed? Unleash of the monster. Then you come round and hear people complaining of how this person has changed. We have drifted…. BULLSHIT…If you didn’t realize all this from the word go, don’t come back 5 years down the line complaining

   FAKE

I do not hate (without a reason) but…. why would someone medically or physically change themselves for someone else? I find it so hilarious when I end up sitting down with either gender and we end up arguing if a chick’s hoo-ha’s are real? If that’s her hair? Is that her real butt? Does she have a waist trainer on? Someone once asked me how my butt randomly grew…. and its simple…..WORK OUT…. till to date…. she still doesn’t believe that…. oh well. But ladies…. not all men love CHINA…I’ve had arguments where we argue about make-up with guys…Some men may be attracted to the fantasy doll figure and look but others are madly in love with your natural self…LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELVES....and accept yourselves for how you are.

Now with just those 4 main issues touched on…what can one learn from this:

a)       Money may make you happy and shit but when it’s over what next? What if it doesn’t buy you the happiness you want? What next? Change the currency? For sure money IS EVERYTHING…but know how to control your OWN and not want OTHERS. If they are willing to share, INVEST in it wisely…. my confidant made me laugh when he told me if he was a gal and a GD (Gold Digger) what he would do with every cent he would get…..was tooooo hilarious….( story for another day)

b)      Good People: at times it is hard to be mean…. trust me I know that especially when you love the other person and you think they feel the same way about you. But it comes a time where you have to be the bigger wiser person and walk out. If someone doesn’t appreciate you, WALK OUT…For those married, don’t give up just yet COMMUNICATE…. If not, I’d say pay back that ain the answer really……try and look for a middle ground or the reason to the reaction. People just don’t change overnight unless you accepted the package as you started unwrapping it.

c)       BE YOU…. If he or she daen like it…. TOOO BAD someone else will and will totally appreciate you for who YOU ARE. I don’t how people keep on changing faces and scenes and there are idiots out there who still follow through… 

d)      At times all the above may not be practical or work for you…but over the past 2 years the one lesson I have learnt and always share it with almost everyone; WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You know it because at the end of it all…. WE ALL HAVE A LIMIT TO OUR LOVE and once you get the guts to accept that and either walk out or change to improve the situation, trust me, you will never regret or look back. I said goodbye to all the silly flings I had and immature relationships I was in that just wasted my time. LEARN TO LOVE WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHO YOU ARE BEFORE YOU TAKE THE CHANCE TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE…